I've been thinking about motherhood a lot in the last few years and i've noticed a couple of things. Most of the people i know do not share the sad, miserable, bad experiences of parenthood. Most of the photos on facebook are of birthdays, family outings, happy, clean, laughing, playing, cuddling babies. I don't see any of my friends posting photos or videos of their kids having temper tantrums in the middle of a store, i don't see them posting photos of a baby screaming his or her lungs out at 2 am, videos of the baby puking or having constant diarrhea, photos of miserable looking parents cause they haven't had a good night sleep for several nights and they're ready to break down, No one shares the misery of parenthood because it seems we all want to cherish the positive and toss the negative out.
I notice that a lot of our friends who have kids don't have very good marriages. People can fake it but at the end of the day "shit always floats". Don't get me wrong I'm not saying the kids are causing rifts in marriages at all but people having kids to fix marriages make it worse.
A lot of parents play the martyr card, starting with my own mom. I've heard so many times about parents not doing something, not going somewhere, not buying something because they want to put their kids first. Kids grow up and you know what? a lot of kids don't really appreciate you skipping on a couple's night out once a month to hang out with them when they were 4 or 5 years old. I've seen parents trying to extort their kids using the sacrifice card, trying to guilt their kids into doing what they want and you know what? it doesn't work.
Bottom line is if people want to promote parenthood to childless couples they should tell them both sides of the story, don't just share the good stories, share the bad stories as well. If an individual wants to make a decision on something so life altering as having a child he/she should be allowed to make an informed decision.It's a lifetime commitment.
A little challenge to my friends with kids if anyone is willing to take it, please share your miserable day with me, you know that day when you were secretly thinking "i can't do this", or "i want out", i know you all had one or two of those...