We belong with each other and i hope every person that joins our family feels the same way. We had our days of doubts the first few months when we first got married. At the first sign of anything not going my way i used to say i want to go back home. Keep in mind our first months of marriage should have been months of dating however we didn't have the luxury of time. As time went by we realized that there isn't another person we'd rather spend our time with so now we can spend days together joined at the hip or spend hours apart doing things we like but deep down we know there will always be a safe place for us to go back to... Each Other
It took me a while to get used to this since I'm a type "A planner". I'm all for the excel sheets and organizational charts; hubby is the opposite. With time i found freedom in going with the flow and letting people BE in the moment. Sometimes too much structure can be suffocating and can lead to resentment and friction.
Being Respectful and Respectable:
Respect is earned and one of the ways to earn and keep it is to initiate it by showing respect yourself . One of the things we agreed on when we got married is that we will never disrespect each other be it in private or public and that we will never call each other disrespectful names/terms no matter how heated an argument gets; and we stick to these rules. Respect is very important specially since it's something you carry around with you to school, work or any other social gathering.
You can't maintain a relationship without honesty. Honesty leads to trust, that leads to respect or lack of it... Honesty is the ground work for all future relationships. We encourage each other to be honest by being understanding of each others short comings and by being forgiving.
We all make mistakes. We can't live our lives running around judging people for every little mistake they make. You can forgive someone and still let them know that what they did was not OK. Holding back forgiveness from someone to punish them or make them feel bad is a very selfish act. Sure you have to choose your battles and sometimes forgiving is hard but in my opinion forgive and move on so everyone can lead a happier life.
When family members know that your feeling of love and care for them are not related to anything they do or don't do it gives them a sense of worth. They will trust you and trust themselves. Being generous is not all about material stuff. Be generous with your love, and definitely be generous with your time.
Reaching to a place in your relationship where you feel you can communicate to your partner all your feelings, hopes, dreams, fears knowing that you will not be judged and ridiculed is a major milestone. I'm amazed at couples that find it hard to be themselves around each other. Hubby and i act around each other as if we are by ourselves. We don't embellish. Inner peace is found so much easier when you can communicate your thoughts and needs without feeling the need to scream. We are always working on our communicating and listening skills.
I know there are many many more ideals and values but these are just a few that come to mind. Feel free to share yours.